Rollercoaster Week
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This week has been a rollercoaster. I'd like to share my perspective on how a bad day can somehow turn into a wonderful one. I'm not trying to tell you how to change the outcome of the day—I just want to share a story and a perspective that carries a valuable lesson.
It's kind of a unique experience because, some days, we're going to mess up—or be messed up. But in the end, we are what we make of our day. Make every day count. Don't let a bad day define your entire life.
The story
This week, I was called into a meeting dubbed 'Evaluation™', where I was supposed to receive 'feedback and suggestions' for improvement. Instead, it turned into a session where my coworkers openly criticized my mistakes in front of everyone.
Whatever, I thought. I didn't mind too much since I saw it coming. The backstabbing from coworkers hurt tho, especially from the one who sits next to me every day. Ouch.
But, few days later, I received incredibly good news—a major turning point in my life. Kind of like winning a lottery, but not a lottery. This is a moment where I can finally be proud of who I am and what I'm doing. It's a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to create something that will have a deep impact on many people's lives. Yay.
Here are some of the points I concluded:
When under the Bus
During the tough time, it's best to stay composed. Avoid adding more fuel to the blaze. As the higher-ups sees you in muddy water, they're going start scrutinizing every detail, even those long-forgotten mistakes. Arguing with them would bring no positive outcome.
Try to stay calm and process the situation without getting too emotionally involved. However, be aware that there are unexpected sharp thorns, such as backstabbing coworkers. It will hurt, especially when you've tried your best to be a good person who doesn't betray others.
But whatever happens, don't let it get to you.
Listen as they spew out the errors without being emotionally invested, then just move forward with it. Like a man.
Never Settle
Do something about it. Because at that point, their view towards you have irreversibly changed. And you could no longer be comfortable working with them.
You should never remain at the bottom of that valley. Do whatever you can to climb back up. Use any power source, no matter how small, to give yourself a boost.
After hitting rock bottom and finding the push to rise again, keep that story to yourself and family. One of the most important realizations is that none of these coworkers are truly your friends. They are the ones who helped pin you down under scrutiny instead of being supportive, and they don't deserve to be treated as friends ever again.
Final Words
I want you, the readers, to know that your coworkers can make your life harder, and they will do it if it benefits them.
Okay, maybe not all of them, but some of them definitely would.
Therefore, you need to minimize their impact by keeping an invisible veil between you and them.